There are certain habits that men naturally pick up on the path to adulthood. However, some become clueless as they grow progress through the teenage years into adulthood. Here are 10 things every bachelor should know when navigating through life.
1. Learn how to cook.
Fellas, learn how to cook. If you don’t know how to, you better learn…and microwaveable meals don’t count. Initially, most men take on cooking because like most things men do, its to impress a female. Trust me, learn how to cook a decent meal! If not for anyone else, do it for yourself.
If there is one thing I’ve learned, whether you’re single, dating or married, never rely on anyone else to provide meals for you. Every meal doesn’t have to be a gourmet meal but should learn the basics, develop healthy eating habits and you’ll be on your way.
2. Health & Fitness
This doesn’t mean you have to be a bodybuilder or even a fitness freak. In the fitness world, there are a ton of different ways to go about exercising. If you’re a gym rat there is stretching, cardio, strength and interval training for the highly motivated.
If the gym isn’t for you, activities like cycling, basketball, jogging, walking or any outdoor/indoor sport will get your body moving and headed in the right direction. Not enough time? If you can spend 20-minutes/day checking social media then you can easily squeeze in 20-minutes of exercise. No excuses!
3. Money Management
Learn how to budget your expenses and start saving. If your employer offers it, invest in a 401k Retirement Plan. The earlier you start planning for retirement, the closer you’ll be to sipping drinks on a beach somewhere. Retiring at the age 36 sounds a lot better than retiring at 76.
If your job doesn’t offer one, you work part-time or are ineligible, then focus on stashing some cash to build an emergency fund while learning how to live within your means. There’s nothing wrong with ballin’ on a budget and there’s no such thing as “too expensive”, it just means you can’t afford it. Learning this at a young age will pay its dividends later on in life as the proof is in the pudding.
Do other things around the house besides “NetFlix & Chill”. Washing dishes, taking out the trash, dusting, doing laundry, folding clothes, sweeping and mopping floors may all seem like childhood chores; but doing so will give you structure and will help you become a more responsible and reliable person.
Remember the dating game is not a sport and don’t settle for looks. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; personality, chemistry, and compatibility can go a long way! Take your time to find the right person that compliments YOUR lifestyle.
Relationships and marriage are complex enough that when the going gets tough (and it will) you have a ride or die by your side; not a shallow, materialistic “sports fish”. If you’re more concerned about who is gonna make you look good on your Instagram feed, you’ve got a lot to learn.
6. Be yourself, stay sharp.
There’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but no one likes to be taken advantage of either. Be yourself! If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re sarcastic, be sarcastic. Find someone that meshes well and compliments you rather than someone who contradicts you. If the person doesn’t like you or your lifestyle, don’t waste your time. Pull the ripcord and move on.
7. Drop the dead weight.
Keep your circle tight! Let go of any negative friendships/relationships you may have and stay connected with family and close friends. Today’s tech allows us to communicate with multiple outlets, so keep in touch and remember your only as good as the company you keep.
8. Hang w/ the homies.
With the bustle and hustle of the rat race, very often we forget to take time out for fun. Enjoy the occasional night on the town with the boys. Mixing beer with dirty jokes, sports trash talk, and random banter sometimes help soothe the soul. It gives a break from reality and helps develop a brotherhood bond that can’t be broken.
9. Keep up appearances.
A first impression is a lasting one, so take pride in your personal appearance and hygiene. I understand we all have bad days but if you don’t own a grooming kit, get one! This isn’t the green light to be superficial and/or conceited…but taking care of yourself not only will improve your confidence, but it also helps increase self-esteem and raise energy levels to get you through the day.
10. Gratitude & Grace
Establish a relationship with God. Now I’m not saying you have to start going to church every Sunday, but you should establish some kind of relationship and connection with our Creator. Whether you were raised in a church or just finding religion; take a few moments a day to talk with God. Although he knows all, having a spiritual, mental and physical connection with our Father will work wonders in your life beyond measure.
If you are a Bachelor in need of advice then you should definitely take these mentions into consideration, implement them into your life and you’ve got yourself a solid foundation.